|There are now many options available to couples suffering infertility|
Infertility affects approximately 1 in 6 couples in The states today. That's 10 million people who know exactly what its like to want something beyond their clutch. In some area's, the decision to post pone childbirth (for career purposes) would make 1 in 6 a very conservative number. It's a sad truth, infertility is seldom discussed openly among friends and family and unless you have had personal experience with infertility, it is understood even less.
Its not an easy thought for couples to try and come to terms with. It a shock that is difficult to understand much less learn to live with. And it comes as little surprise. Secondary infertility is especially hard for couples to understand - it seems impossible that after conceiving one perfect child (or several) that a woman is suddenly unable to have anymore. Secondary Infertility is something that you cannot explain to friends or family who reply with hurtful yet well intended comments like "At least you already have one" or "Your body knows what to do - its done it before...you just have to be patient."
Although infertility can affect people of all backgrounds, the childless poor usually have neither the time nor the money to undergo a lengthy series of tests - commonly called an infertility work-up - to determine the cause of the problem. When you are thinking about starting a family, you should always begin with a pre-conception check up at your local Dr surgery. If your Dr has any concerns or you have been trying for more than a year or you are in your 30s you will be referred to a Fertility Specialist. There are many tests that will help to determine the source of the problem and many treatments that can range from something as simple as lifestyle changes, to medications to "minor" corrective surgery (its called minor up until you're lying on the table panicking!) to the very costly and invasive IVF treatment.
The anguish of infertility will strike increasing numbers of couples in the next few years, however, as the children of the baby boom reach their late twenties and early thirties. Others who till now have postponed marriage and childbearing for their careers will turn to both to round out their lives - and find conceiving a child is not possible.
The men, after years of enjoying what they consider a sizable sex drive, will be dismayed to discover that their sperm are too few in number or perhaps not active enough to result in a conception. The women may be diagnosed with endometriosis, a condition in which parts of the uterine lining seed themselves in various places along the reproductive tract. Unknown in cultures where women marry young, it is a common finding in American women past 30. Or the women may be part of the 10.9 million who took the Pill every day despite having pre-existing gynecological abnormalities which should have warned the physician against the prescription.
You should always discuss your options with an sympathetic doctor - do not waste time with a doctor who Refuses take your concerns seriously. Seek a second opinion. A generation ago, before the current explosion in medical technology, couples had few options. However today we are blessed with many options that have brought thousands healthy children into the arms of their ecstatic parents. My advice is to work closely with your Doctor who can instruct you on the best options you have at your disposal be that a holistic approach or medical intervention.